When you’re in a child custody dispute in Oklahoma, knowing what to avoid is key, as everything you say and do can influence the court’s decision. Judges make custody decisions based on the best interests of the child, and they closely observe both parents’ behavior throughout the case. Making the wrong impression—whether in court, during mediation, or even on social media—can seriously hurt your chances.
Avoid Speaking Negatively About the Other Parent
It’s natural to feel frustration, especially in a contentious divorce or separation, but criticizing the other parent in front of your child, on social media, or in court can backfire. Oklahoma courts value co-parenting and expect both parents to encourage a healthy relationship between the child and the other parent.
Avoid saying:
- “Your mother is crazy.”
- “Your father never cared about you.”
- “I’ll make sure you never see them again.”
Even if you have legitimate concerns, express them respectfully and through the proper legal channels.
Don’t Ignore Court Orders
Whether it’s a temporary custody order, visitation schedule, or request for drug testing, it’s critical that you comply with all court directives. Failing to follow court orders shows the judge that you may not respect legal authority or your child’s needs.
Avoid Using Your Child as a Messenger or Spy
Do not ask your child to deliver legal messages, collect information about the other parent, or take sides. This can put emotional pressure on your child and may be viewed by the court as parental alienation. Judges look for signs that a parent puts the child’s well-being first—and weaponizing your child is a red flag.
Stay Off Social Media
Posting about your case, venting frustrations, or sharing photos of inappropriate behavior (e.g., partying, drinking) can be used as evidence against you. Even posts you think are private can be subpoenaed or sent to the court by the opposing party.
Don’t Lie or Hide Information
Always be honest with your attorney and the court. If you lie about income, hide your child’s location, or make false accusations, it can destroy your credibility. Judges can detect dishonesty, and once your integrity is in question, it’s hard to recover.
Don’t Disregard the Child’s Needs
Everything in a custody case should center on your child’s emotional, physical, and developmental well-being. If you focus solely on “winning,” the court may conclude that you are acting in your own interest rather than your child’s.
Wagoner Child Custody Attorneys
Oklahoma judges assess each parent’s ability to co-parent, provide a safe home, and support the child’s development. Stay calm, follow court orders, and act in your child’s best interest at all times. If you’re facing a custody dispute, we can help. For a Free consultation with Kania Law Office – Wagoner Attorneys, call us at 918-283-7394. Or if you would like to ask a lawyer an online legal question, follow this link.
